Dec 15th 2009 the date I use to base my “sobrity” on. Yet during that time I have had sex with a women I was seeing for about 6 months, I have masturbated without porn…the last few months a few time. That brings to what is normal.
Normal for a 40 year old single man…what is that? I know that what I was doing was NOT normal. At the height of my porn addiction I could watch porn and masturbate up to 3 times in a day, and do this about every other day. I think it is safe to say this is NOT normal. I have friends from SA that were paying for sex…I again, safe to say that is not healthy.
Normal from what I can see from the world around me is what I am doing is normal, if I had slept with more women in the last year…One more? two more? When do I cross the “normal” line? If I masturbate once a week, is this normal? If I look at porn every once in a while…would the world around me look at me as “normal” I know the judao -Christian view…at least the one they teach teenagers, no sex until marriage, no masturbation…I know that I know very few that actually lived this. I know many more that pretended they did.
What is “healthy” man? Does not having sex or jerking off make you healthy? I have been saying for years now I want recovery, But I think I was confusing sexual sobriety for recovery. Being sexually sober with SA rules, does not make a man healthy. Being sexually sober, does not make a man sober. So what is healthy?
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